We naturally tell stories: “He always makes such a fuss about things.” “She’s a wonderful mother.” “They’ll never learn.” “I’m so stupid.” “I’ll never have a home again.” “He’s the angriest person I know.” “I can’t stand that!” As long as we have a mind, there probably will be stories going through it. Paying attention to these stories and believing them affects our life — how we feel and what we do. Stories create a lens through which we see life.
The truer our stories are (i.e. the closer to reality they are), the less they distort life and the happier and more functional we will be. However, many of our stories are not very true (only a little true) and interfere with functioning, with being happy, and with our relationships.
So what is a true story? A true story is one that is true all the time. A story that is not very true or less true is not true all the time. A simple example of a true story is: “The sky is blue when there are no clouds (during the day).” An example of a story that is not very true is: “It always rains when I have something fun planned outdoors.”
The way you can tell the difference between a true story and one that is not very true is by how it makes you feel. A true story relaxes you and opens your Heart or results in some neutral response, while a story that is not very true results in uncomfortable feelings, contraction of our energy, and tension in the body, which are signs of ego identification, signs that the ego is telling a story rather than making some neutral comment about life.
Notice how the stories you tell register in your body, how they affect your body’s energetic sense.
The ego’s stories, when they are believed, often create agitation emotionally, mentally, and even physically. What follows is often a defense of the story or an embellishment of it, and this creates further emotional agitation. If that story is shared with others, it creates agitation in them, and they tend to respond with stories of their own, creating more agitation. The ego actually loves this agitation. It loves to stir up emotions.
When your emotions or other people’s have been stirred up, you can be sure the ego is behind that. No one needs such stories.
True stories have the opposite effect: They calm us and return us to Essence, to the place of peace and equanimity that is our natural state. So when you tell a true story like “Love is more important than appearance” or “Happiness is here right now,” your body and entire being relax, and from this peace, love and wisdom can flow. This is the state of Essence. From this state, true stories are spok
~ Gina Lake. from Gina’s blog