Recognizing Yourself in Another
Only when you find the formless dimension in yourself can there be true love in any relationship. The Presence that you are, the timeless I Am, recognizes itself in another, and the other feels loved, that is to say, recognized.
To love is to recognize yourself in another. The other’s “otherness” then stands revealed as an illusion pertaining to the purely human realm, the realm of form. The longing for love that is in everyone is the longing to be recognized, not on the level of form, but on the level of Being.
If you honor only the human dimension of the other but neglect Being, the other will sense that the relationship is unfulfilled, that something absolutely vital is missing, and there will be a buildup of pain in the other and sometimes unconscious resentment toward you. “Why don’t you recognize me?” This is what the pain or resentment seems to be saying.
When another recognizes you, that recognition draws the dimension of Being more fully into this world through both of you. That is the love that redeems the world….
It has been said “God is love” but that is not absolutely correct. God is the One Life in and beyond the countless forms of life. Love implies duality: lover and beloved, subject and object. So love is the recognition of oneness in the world of duality. This is the birth of God into the world of form. Love makes the world less worldly, less dense, more transparent to the divine dimension, the light of consciousness itself.
From, A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.
